Is the fight to achieve the most truly effective bringing women for their knees? Gets the fairer sex really end up being the weaker sex? Are we depressed or are we just experiencing what men have always known concerning pressure, but because we are women we are a push over for analysis ultimately ending in medication that calms “what ails us”? We ought to remember that we are still surviving in a predominately male operated society. Men have the natural instinct to want to “fix it” when anything they perceive as an issue arises. If our a reaction to an issue isn’t to take care of it in the strict male fashion, we should be falling apart and need to be fixed by medication, counseling, or both. You’re right now asking what do men and their view of our reactions to problems have to do with us being depressed. Well, I’ll tell you.
Women are not men. Irrespective of how short you cut your own hair, Madam President, (sarcasm intended) or the fact you wear pants will ever allow you to a man. But every day we are told that obtaining the feelings and reactions connected with women is wrong. There are some popular theories going around that say women are making men gay by expecting them to have emotions which are prevalent to women, but these same men will deny that telling women to subdue their emotions, or natural reactions, can have any mental effect on them.
Women are trying to match a society built and operated by men. We’ve certain attitudes about how things should be. For too long we have been told we are wrong and to do something about it. What exactly do we do? We put it in its place. Somewhere deep inside our minds where we don’t dare go. Beauty and the beast rose Not knowing what to do with this specific unnatural act, our hearts and minds are bogged down. There’s no where for it to go. It doesn’t have outlet. This is labeled depression.
I suppose this sounds like a “let’s get men” attack, but it really isn’t meant to have a negative connotation to it. It is just the natural order of things. Women are smart humans and will learn to adapt in this harsher world in order to survive and one day to thrive again. I am not saying that we will not bring our own type of problem solving to this dilemma, eventually. But for the present time we should find a method of coping. Fortunately society has given us a way out by providing the monster a name, depression. And as it has a socially acceptable name, it’s okay to have this reaction called depression. I don’t think so!
Women must start to appreciate that just because we might not manage to own it all right now (emphasis on the may) does not make us any less “of a man” then our hairy counterparts. The female sector must never stop fighting for what is rightfully theirs in equal pay and other rights. But at the same time frame, we should stop beating ourselves up over the fact we haven’t arrived yet in the eyes of a society that doesn’t know any better (at least for the moment) then to react in the status quo fashion.
Females have been overachievers. You understand our labels: perfect wife, great cook, and super mom. And now, let us place the added burden of breadwinner to the long listing of “must dos” ;.Unfortunately being an overachiever means that we need to “out do” to be called successful. And we will “out do”, won’t we? What’ll we get if we aren’t at the very top? We get to handle that beast that goes by the name of depression. I am the world’s worst with this one. In everything I actually do I must be the award winner, the greatest paid, the fastest runner, whatever. Discuss major self-appointed stresses! But seriously, does this not sound familiar for you?
But we must find a method to shrug off a few of the anxiety and self-appointed stress. Slay the beast by means apart from anger or mood altering antidepressants. Why must I now add anger to the problems of emotional out cries? Now significantly more than ever, women are venting their frustration through the use of anger. Road rage by women! Ever seen this one? Ever been on the receiving end of one of those fingers? I am not even coming near to suggesting that women own that one exclusively or even while an increased degree than men. But ask your mom how often she was cut off, cussed out, and all those other glamorous actions we attended to see often, being initiated by way of a female when she was young. Perhaps you would utilize the explanation of more female drivers. Might be, but doubt it. We’re programming ourselves to push, push, and push to get ahead. Our natural instinct would be to react emotionally and unfortunately this really is developing as anger in a lot of situations.
The ladies I talked with stated they truly thought that women are angrier than they certainly were in the past. The media has put so much pressure on us to be thinner, always look our best, and often with unreasonable expectations to what is called excepted. Anorexia is at an all time high among women. Health concerns are not in the middle of the attack, (no pun intended) on women to be skinny. You’re unattractive and not right for a lifetime career, marrying, or some other quantity of outside your home social activities. When you yourself have any unwanted weight for you, you’d better do something about it. But whenever you can’t reach, for just one reason or another, these unreasonable goals, you feel depressed.
Career goals, physical appearance, and respect are but a several reasons women become depressed. My priority is for girls to locate a healthier, more positive way to take care of these socially inflicted stresses then becoming depressed, angry, and ultimately becoming dependent on antidepressants. We know that historically men used alcohol as a means to cope. We see how that faired, don’t we? Let’s not follow their lead but learn from their mistakes. I’ll allow you to in on a little secret if you don’t tell men. We’re actually more powerful than they’re, as a whole. Men could find this funny and hard to prove, but I am 51 and have experienced my share of tragedy. I’ve watched a lot of men drop the tubes when life smacks them down once or twice but at the same time frame have experienced many women still standing after life has punched them in the stomach many times. Don’t let them tell you that since they are willing to attend war and die for a great cause makes them the stronger sex, either. There ain’t no such thing as a good war as grounds to die. Yes, I understand that men start these wars, nevertheless, you can’t use that against them. Crazy men are the people starting wars. I recently don’t think they ought to use their patriotic duty as a cause to state they’re stronger, but if you inquire further why they believe they’re stronger this seems to be their answer. That’s all I’m saying.
I was on antidepressants for 5 years and I smoke 1 ½ packs of cigarettes a day. I will say I was to them because I, not my doctors, took myself off them. I do want to handle life through my very own thoughts and strengths. As for the cigarettes, I’ve currently cut right out ½ pack with the hope of quitting. Neither one of these simple actions has been easy. I will still “slap you into tomorrow” if I am aggravated enough, so I began my very own home based business to keep me calmer inside my transition. Whatever it takes. But my point is that I have grown to be aware that I am stronger then this and want to be me, just me, and all the great or bad that comes with it.
Think about it ladies, execute a self-inventory. Are your reactions to situations over the top or have you been coping in a positive manner? Look closely at how you react and don’t excuse it if it’s nearly lady like. It’s not good for your health or your own self-image. Whenever you screamed and yelled at that driver, did it can you any good? Bet not. Bet your blood pressure went through the roof. Why do you think more women are dying from coronary arrest and stroke then men are now actually? Even as we always have before, we should come up with a constructive way to prevent “the madness” ;.Our society is mean to each other. You view it and you realize it’s true. We’re on a path to self-destruction. Take a deep breath, exercise more, try some natural products, are more spiritually involved, or go slower in your climb to the most truly effective, whatever it takes. Decelerate and smell the roses! You can do it if you will just put a little effort into it. We’re overachievers but we are also over comers, go for it with all that produces you a female!